So I was talking with some family of mine about life, love and relationships, you know the usual stuff...
Mistakes made, lessons learnt and future desires...
Things were going ok until we got onto the subject of someone who is very dear to me, and I mean literally this person can do no wrong in my eyes, for all what they have done for me over the years, I would defend this person to the very end!
Unfortunately for some reason the family member I was talking with does not hold this person up to the same level as I do, in fact I get the impression that they might quite be willing to throw the other person under the bus! So I,m talking Total opposite ends on the spectrum of ideas!
Anyway, we're talking about how the person that I adore has been in a very unhappy long term relationship and that even though at times we have both had conversations saying they should get out and there have been what we both saw as perfect opportunities to get out, they still stayed for what ever reason.
So there´s me saying no trust me I truely believe that if such and such (the correct finances etc) were in place RIGHT NOW that this person would definitely breakout and leave this relationship - and the reason that I know this is because this person tells me so near enough everyday (literally!)
So then my family memeber drops the classic line... well she made her bed, so she is lying in it! She must be getting something out of it... etc... etc.
Now what got me was not necessarily what this person was saying but HOW it was said... as if this person just had no compassion for what the other person might be going through... it was like a brick wall!!
To the point were there was a moment of tension in the conversation like ´nooo... seriously, trust me...(through gritted teeth!) lol
I just thought it was so cold, considering that the same person saying 'she made her bed...' was also at one point in a long term relationship which possibly was not the best for her, and it was the same women who she has no compassion for now who had compassion for her ... and I mean literally she left and knocked on her door with bags already packed and asking for help...
At the time though I was not able to articulate it... seriously think about it...
What if in your time of need you knocked on her door and she had the same attitude that you have right now... You made your bed, SO LIE IN IT! Where would you be if she never had compassion for you? and helped you?
My point is ...think, because everybody hits rock bottom at some point in life and it is at those times that we need someone to show us some compassion whether I made my bed or not!
