… I really do! Lol
Especially after watching channel 4’s My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding which chronicles the rites of passage for Gypsy girls, which basically from watching the first show consists of planning for her wedding from the day she is born!
In between being born and the wedding, there are the rights of passage like attending other gypsy weddings to be ‘grabbed’
‘Grabbing’ basically means that when a gypsy boy likes a gypsy girl, he normally physically drags her off somewhere and tries to forcibly get a kiss from her; and by forcibly I mean twisting her arm until she concedes (Chinese burn anyone?) or as Cheyenne one of the gypsy girls featured on the show told us until the girl ‘get the boy off her’ (which includes saying no repeatedly and physically pushing and shoving him off).
The reason the girl says no or try’s to get the boy who is ‘grabbing’ off her is because gypsy girls despite how there appear; (in the show the girls were said to dress like prostitutes) have very high morals and there are traditions and customs to adhere to, such as no sex before marriage. To the point that a girl can not be seen to be with a guy who she is not married to alone for fear that her name will be scandalized; and even those boys and girls who have been betrothed to each other must be chaperoned when out together before they get married.
So as you can imagine the BDSS were doing what we do best… (If your not sure what we do best check out our blurb above) regarding these so called ‘gypsy customs’ and as you would expect from any discussion involving four different women, there were some serious difference in opinion…
Some of us were arguing… ‘Customs me a*s!’ and I quote: “if I wanted to get ‘grabbed’ I could just go down to Silks and Spice!” And “It just gives them an excuse to behaviour like Neanderthals”
Whilst others were not so much against the ‘gypsy customs’ in fact BDSS Bi throw out: “I would prefer a man to twist up my arm marry me and look after me, than chirps me with labrish and leave me high and dry “ :-D
Now in a way (and when put like that!) I had to agree with Bi because we have all heard and have become familiar with the constantly perpetuated idea that in the black community it comes like you (as a women) have to twist up a mans arm in order for him to marry you! (and your an education eligible women!)
Further more what the gypsy girls said they wanted in a man or actually a husband sounded pretty much the same as if you were to ask any women what they want in a man:
‘Loyal’, ‘don’t lay in the bed’ ‘gets up and goes to work’, ‘takes care of me’ ‘looks after me’ ‘someone who don’t beat
To be honest I can’t really remember all of what they said they wanted in a husband, but whilst they were saying it I can’t say that I disagreed! Lol
Not to mention the fairy tale wedding dress! What women would not like a gypsy wedding if not just to wear a massive white diamond encrust, corseted, see-through, split up the middle dress!? lol
So any way’s BDSS followers what do you think… are you like me and Bi, do you want a gypsy wedding? Also what did you make of the ‘gypsy customs’ feel free to have a ‘grab’ in comments (It lets us know that you like us!)
