Why do some men insist on addressing you as if you're one of their boys.
Its one of my real bugbears (a long with being called princess).
I'm serious I hate this, I'm not your bredrin, your b, your bruv, your homie, your dog.
Whatever happened to addressing your female friend like your female friend and not your boy.
I understand we are close, but as much as I will sit down with you and watch a football game and become interested, or listen to you go on about the challenges of your day at work, I might listen to some hip-hop or whatever music you like (I've only now deleted the drake from my phone- my point is I'm not a huge hip-hop fan but you make concessions for each other!), or watch a film you like (I found inception tiring! Although you loved it).
We can sit down and talk about anything, politics, religion (although this discussion gets heated), music, x factor etc.
We are friends I know (and I guess all those words are said in an affectionate sounding way- well as much as is possible), they are terms used to greet someone nicely within our community.
But I don't have a penis or beard, or a baritone voice, I never grew up with you, so we never chatted up girls together, or had our first spliff together, or sat around in the barbers with you on a saturday getting your hair cut planning some "moves" together. I'm just not that bredrin you like to holla at me as! You've still got your boys!
My tomboy days have long since gone, in those days it would have been great to be thought of as one of the boys as it meant you were cool with the boys you used to fancy.
Also gone is my love for lyrics such as "your like my homie" butta love next! Or "me and my bitch". Me and my bitch Jaheem!
Maybe I'm alone on this one, maybe I'm being uptight, highly strung whatever...you can think that!
Just don't call me bredrin, bruv or b!
Address women as women!
Over to you bdss'ers!!
What's your bugbear? Get it off your chest!
