Last week I was driving back from an appointment, I hate motorways, A roads, Dual Carriage Ways, or any other situations that require me to go fast in my car, so I decided to take the scenic route, even though I didn’t know my way home that way.
At first my journey was carefree and pleasurable, the sun was shining, I was listening to my Aaliyah, and my baby was fast asleep in the back - Bliss. After half an hour I noticed that I had gone around in one big circle, and I actually didn’t know where the hell I was, or my way back home. I was in fact lost! I whipped out my mobile for my Sat Nav app, and the thing had crashed. Not knowing where I was going, was turning from being a blissfully carefree situation, into a nightmare. By now the baby was screaming down the car, I had remembered that I had a repair man coming for 1pm and had only had an hour to get home. I managed to pull over, whip out my A-Z and work out my way back at home, just making it back in time to catch the repair man, who was waiting outside. On my journey I remember thinking that this journey would make a great anecdote on life for my next post.
Often like many others I suppose I have often lived my life without much thought, just going with the flow and taking what life has thrown at me. I have also made choices spontaneously, enjoying the blissful carefree feeling of the unknown, but then regretting my actions when I have hit an obstacle or pot hole.
One of the things that I have learnt in my 27 years is the importance of planning, and also really getting to grips with who you are. It can actually be really hard taking time out for yourself, especially with the demands of work, education, family, and friends. So I have recently set aside at least half an hour each day for myself to meditate. It’s enabled me to really think about decisions that I need to make, and helps bring clarity to any problems I may have. When you are emotionally in touch with yourself, it makes knowing your direction in life easier. It also helps you to find ‘Mr or Mrs Right’ because you actually know what you require from a partner, and whether they match you and your desires.
There have been times in my life that I have actually ran away from myself, it sounds strange doesn’t it? But it’s true, sometimes we can be scared of what we may uproot when we focus on ourselves, so we bury our own needs deep within, covering our feelings with the soil of our partners needs, our families needs, and our friends needs. Believe me, when you grab your spade of strength and start to shovel away that emotional soil to get back to you, you will feel happier. Others cannot make you happy and content if you don’t feel that way within. If you are feeling low, get out your pen and paper and start planning your life it’s exciting to do! Think of all the possibilities that YOU can create, think about what you plan on doing in the next year or 5 years. This will be you own personal A-Z, something solid that you can look at when you are in a traffic jam or have lost your way. Make time for yourself! It doesn’t have to be meditating, do things that you enjoy - make yourself happy. Think of the past, and the choices you have made that have made you happy or sad this will help you in the future.
It is very easy to go around in a big circle if you don’t plan and reflect, and I really encourage this.
You can be blissfully carefree, with the knowledge that you have direction it makes life’s journey so much easier.
So my BDSS crew, have you got any tips on life that you can share with us for our journey‘s?
