Vybz Kartel Bleaching ...From Teacher to Bleacher...

I know I am over overly late with this one bdss’rs, but I’m going to give my opinion anyway!

Recently it has come to my attention that Mr Vybz Kartel aka Where me get me clarkes aka the teacher aka is now possibly a... bleacher?

Now to be honest I'm not really sure I should even do this post because I am by no means 'Up to the times' with the dancehall world, or Vybz Kartel in general. In fact the last time I even watched or took an interest in Vybz Kartel was probably a year or two back when him and Movado were at Sting and they were going back and forth... if I recall Vybz was in military garb and had his army around him, the personification of 'bad man' 

*I tell a lie my boyfriend has now schooled me on the whole Gaza and Gully history - I am officially 'Up to the times' and 'Sweet to the belly'

Anyways back to my opinion... despite not really following Vybz Kartel too closely in recent years to me he has always had this kind of bad man imagine, as demonstrated at Sting and throughout his career.

He is the personification of not caring and definitely not conforming (sticking two fingers up at the police and all that anti social stuff), going to war and all that etc.; so the idea that he is bleaching his skin is down right crazy to me and I'm sure to a lot of people!

I mean are bad men suppose to be vain?  Or at least ...that vain? 

Now whilst I can understand a possible bad man exercising and eating right to get that desired physique; or dressing a certain way to enhance their look (wearing Clarks and skinny jeans) or changing their hair style... but to bleach one's skin takes the idea of vain to a whole new level - is it self hate?

I can't fib, for me it kind of kills the whole bad man imagine he has built, more like badly insecure! 

Why else would he go from what I would consider a perfectly healthy complexion, to there I say it - looking like he has Jaundice! 

 

Seriously, bleaching does not agree with his skin at all and he actually looks sick.

I know I know ...recently Vybz Kartel has said its part of his 'new image' and also his skin bleaching is no different to when white people tan themselves... really?

As far as I'm aware everybody looks good with a little tan (not tangoed!). A tan can add a healthy glow from the lightest to the darkest of skins. 

Bleaching on the other hand is not so good and I can't even tell you who I have seen that looked better for bleaching their skin. In fact I remember once bumping into a women I knew who clearly had been dabbling in the bleach; and the result was red raw cheeks and pimply spots, which was not a good look at all!

I think its fitting that he himself has brought up tanning... because right about now he is looking the bleaching equivalent of someone who has overdone it on the sunbed; and I think there must be some serious skin colour issues in Jamaica which causes a successful, influential Jamaican dancehall artist, to not feel comfortable in the skin he was born with and the foundations possible lay down deep in self hate.

Also what kind of message does Vybz Kartel's skin bleaching send out to impressionable young people?  Lighter skin is better; you get more girls with lighter skin?

The video below is from 2008 so maybe Vybz Kartel is not doing anything new... 

 ... However in the video it did state the practice of skin bleaching was mainly found in the 'poorer inner city Garrison communities' so what purpose does it serve Vybz Kartel to bleach his skin? As I said above he is a successful artist, he has the money, the adulation and women falling at his feet, so why’s does he do it BDSS’ers? Also are there any bleachers out there who want to share why they do it? and is skin bleaching a sign or form of self hate?  

All thoughts welcomed...

Male Categorising, Scoring of Women...

It probably comes as no surprise that as I’m a blogger I read a lot of different blogs!

Lately I have noticed a number of articles regarding men having a thing about scoring or categorising women. I’m not sure if this is an American male thing, because the blogs I read are mainly American blogs or whether this phenomenon is worldwide…

The articles I have read range from men categorising the types of women such as: Ladies, What Number Are You …

In a nutshell, if you are a number 1 you are wife material, if you are a number 2 you could potentially be wife material; if you are a number 3 well... you are not wife material!

I have oversimplified it and it is possible for women to move between scores during relationships and a number 1 can be relegated to a number 3! lol

The two out of three rule Why Men Sleep With Ugly Women

Ladies listen up! If you got at least two out of the three of the following: Ass, Bust and Face and in any combination i.e., nice face and bust, bum and nice face or bum and bust (even if facially challenged) you are alright – yes!

Although come to think of it I probably only get a 1 out of 2, so no love for me! Moving on...

... I guess it got me wondering a few things:

1) Is it a universal thing…female categorising by men?

2) Do we women do it? And if so, ladies what are some of your categories, scores, grades that men fall into? Is there a male ass, bust and face equivalent that you subscribe to...? (e.g., he has a nice body, face and eyes or ugly face, nice body and nice eyes... 2 out of 3!)

Last but not least -Why can’t we all just be unique? (Oh wait very smart brothas explains why here…Your really not all that special)

(Another nut shell, women fit into 9 different templates! lol ... but the Champ did not expand on the 9 templates so ladies I guess we will never know what one we fit into!)

What are your thoughts BDSS’er? Categorising universal for men? Do you categorise or score when it comes to choosing a partner or do you view each person as unique and give them a try?

Signed: uniquely Si!

How To Snag A Wealthy Husband...

When I first read this article of how Kim Perez snagged her self a millionaire husband (see here: How to marry a millionaire -Kim Perez Style) there was a small part of me who thought good for her.

You see Kim compared her plight of being a divorced lowly chemist worker from up north, to that of someone trapped in the wrong gender! lol (apparently she was trapped in the wrong social class); so much so she dealt with her plight by reinventing herself.

Now I kind of admire the fact she identifed her problem (wrong class),  she identified what was needed to fix said problem (a millionaire husband) and she made the necessary changes to solve her problem (a few elocution lessons, a new wardrobe, erased northern past!) and voila -she is 9 months married to a millionaire.

Today Kim spends her days shopping, eating at fine restaurants, traveling the world and setting up her own tanning business (apparently shopping gets boring)... she is living the dream and as I said above good for bloody her! lol 

I mean what women (or man) for that matter would not love to experience the finer things in life? Truth be told I'm waiting for my partner to make his millions so I can live a life of retail therapy and fine dinning -definitely no work for me… but thats just my dream... back to Kim.


As much as I was feeling good for her, there were certain things Kim said in the articule that made me think hmm (dream or ...something else!)… which I will expand upon below:-


She changed her accent -  Now I don't necessarily think there is anything wrong with changing your accent, I think we all switch up our accents or manner of speech depending on the setting; except in Kim's case changing her accent seemed more about contempt or self loathing: 'Northern accents make people assume you’re stupid and working class.' 

She continued:  'after six months (of elocution lessons) it was virtually impossible to tell I had been born in the North'

God forbid anyone discovering your from... (gasp) -up Norf! :-d

She educationed herself about the rich (where they dinned, travelled etc) - Again not necessarily a big deal; who doesn't love a good glossy magazine and keeping abreast of how the other half live?

A little deeper however reveals Kim might has some sort of social anxiety:  'I got books from the library on etiquette. I didn’t want to use the wrong knife or pick up someone else’s bread roll by mistake.'

Ok the wrong knife issue I can kind of understand because in all honesty I'm acustomed to a knife, a fork and a spoon (at the head of my plate) for dessert... any other cutlery is wasted on me; but to actually think I don't want to make the mistake of picking up someones bread roll? really... with that kind of pressure I don't know how she manages to enjoy all this fine cuisine she is dinning on...

(I can picture it now) Panic!! ... 'is this my bread roll ...or his?!' :-d

Moving on... She changed her appearance - this one is reasonable for someone trying to reinvent themselves. Want a rich husband? appear to be rich husband material!

She wanted to...'show him (her potential husband) she would be able to 'fit' into his world'. So she wore designer clothes and defaulted on an electricity bill or two to get those hair extensions.

Kim was 'speculating to accumulate' — and she knew it would be 'worth it'. She kind of reminds me of what the hip hop honey's do (invest in plastic bums, breasts & portfolio's) only Kim has actually arrived at her idea of sucess...

I think shes actually ... a Genius - lol...I'm back to saying - good for her!

Finally... She left her old life behind -  this is the point were I went double hmm (as in -hmm? hmm!?)

Initally she was vague about her past with her husband and did not tell him she was a lowly chemist worker (from up Norf!) living on the bread line; because as mentioned above she wanted to be 'seen to fit into his world'. However it seems like she does not really 'fit in'... 

'Do I feel like I’m still playing a part? In some ways, yes I do. I’m still careful to keep things vague when I talk to people about my background'.

Serious?! :-d

To me it sounds like she's ashamed of who she is, where she comes from, and possibly how and why she is where she is now? literally she set out to bag a rich husband to give her the 'dream life' she could not give herself (without him knowing that was what she was doing). Its kind of like deceipt!?

Also from the articule I can't really see what she brings to the relationship table? if you know what I mean? her husband has the money, the 'cool confidence' of a sucessful man. She's got a fake accent, good looks and an unspeakable past! (in social settings) lol

Also whilst she might be scoofing at her old family and friends 'mundane lives' at least they are unlikely to be ashamed to say  'ay up chuck' every now and again... (like a true Northern person- yeh!) to deny her roots must take away from the experience in some way me finks... not so good for her!

So anyways BDSS'rs what do you think is Kim living a dream or an illusion?! Are you planning on snagging a wealthy man… how are you going to do it? finally is being from Norf that bad that you have to deny your Northern roots?


*Also whilst no prenup is promising on her husbands part,  her telling the world (or atleast all daily mail readers)  she will leave 'with what she came with' if the relationship goes askew (whilst noble) is ...very stupid! :-d