Is your partner supposed to be your bestfriend?

Deluded or juvenile as this may be but whenever I have dreamt of settling down and getting hitched, I've always envisaged my partner as being my best friend.

I'd say that in my dating life I've had one experience where my partner has been that, which has been my longest relationship to date which lasted 7 years (check me out-that was a good innings lol), but since then, my partners have been simply boyfriends. There has been no great friendship that I can identify with all but a very small minority (1 other I can think off).

A year into my current relationship almost, it will be 1 year in september...now that our honeymoon period is over :( I am beginning to question. Is this a best friend? Is it even appropriate for me to be wanting such a thing? or is it something that harks back to when I was reading fairytale's of prince charming. The funny thing is I know that the prince in snow white, cinderella and the like all rescued the princess, but I'm not entirely sure they became best friends! I'm not sure where that notion comes from!

But anyways what do you think bloggers are partners supposed to be best friends? Is your partner your best friend? What's that like? (So I can compare lol).

Welcome to the phenomenal women blog - part of bdss

Hello and welcome to my first blog on bdss!

If your not familiar with the maya angelou poem “phenomenal woman”, then you will probably think from the name of my blog that I am a completely conceited woman walking around thinking I'm phenomenal, well as great as i think I am, its more a tribute to the fabulous contributors to the bdss blog. We are a group of women expressing ourselves and everyone is welcome to join in!

So here goes first ever blog (I'm nervous lol)

I love the above poem as it inspires me to feel confident and womanly it says I am a women phenomenally, phenomenal woman that's me :) love it lol!

Its got me wondering what other things make me feel completely awesome and rocking....

1) A big hug and kiss from my son

2) Getting in some me time

3) Completing a goal or challenge I've set for myself

4) Spending time with good family and friends

5) Being inspired

........So my phenomenal ladies can you think of anything else?

Although he got a young back, he don't know about that real stroke... and other benefits of growing old!

Thank you Brian McKnight for those words of wisdom! I agree with that sentiment...although being young is good, certain things only come with age!

...And as me and Selly are turning 29 next month, I thought I'd list some of the good things that have come to me with growing older.

First, as I have gotten older I have grown more comfortable and confident in myself. I no longer stress out about things I have no control over and just enjoy my life...misery don´t like my company no more, fact! lol

Second, I no longer need someone else to complete me and I have slowly but surely grown content in my own self... (I`m giving myself a hug right now!).

Another thing that has come with age is that when I go raving I don't have to be in the tightest or shortest dress or the highest heels to feel sexy because I feel sexy in my own skin. Plus sexiness is all in the mind and I can still be sexy in tracksuit pants trust! (and no I don´t wear track pants to the club!), you see because I´m grown I don´t really go clubbing anymore...

Also as I have gotten older my relationships have become more stable, less confusing and more fulfilling, and right now I love being in a grown folks relationship dealing with grown folk issues in a grown folk way (thank you Selly for that quote!), meaning although we might argue and get on each others nerves... we don´t throw in the towel and break up ... we thrash things out, we discuss, agree, compromise and sometimes even agree to disagree! (how mature are we?).

I can only think of a few random examples at the moment, I would try and think of more but I´m tried and my back is aching!

...Please feel free to begin were I have left off and tell me more good things that have come to you with age... (besides wisdom, grace and better stroking technique!)