5 Sign's of a good man

As the old saying goes, the course of true love does not run smoothly and I speak as one of the unattached many, when I say that my relationship road, has been a very bumpy road indeed. Relationships are not like the fairy tales depicted by Walt Disney, and although they say that you have to kiss many frogs to find a prince, alot of the time it can feel like you have kissed one too many frogs, and your left wondering are their any good guys out there.

I saw this in an email the other day:

Q: What do you call an intelligent, good looking, and sensitive man? 

A: A rumor 

Okay so it was sent as part of a longer jokey man bashing email, but  I think it's quite apt for this post, it can feel like a good man is some kind of mythological being much like a unicorn or big foot or the loch ness monster. Some people believe in his existence but he is rarely seen or encountered. After a week in which I had a woman sobbing for a whole day at work over a man and also some other relationship fatalities, It got me wondering how do you spot when a man is sincere, genuine and for want of a better description a "good man". 

I scoured the Internet in search of the answers and I also asked a few of the women I know who are coupled up and in long term relationships and I assume content.

Some of the answers were as follows:

"if he is a man of his word" or "he does what he say's he is going to do" - from a woman in an 8 year relationship.

"I can just see it in the way he looks at me" - From a woman in 1 year and a half relationship.

"He had a strong work ethic, and immediately he used it to advance us and our family' - From woman in 7 year relationship.

 "He showed love and affection to his family and friends, which made me feel like he would be able to show that to me" - From a woman in a 3 year relationship.

"little boys play around, real men settle down" - From a woman in a 8 year relationship.

So these are some of the things said by women who felt that they were in relationships with great men.

When I searched the Internet and read a few blogs and websites I found the following piece very insightful and interesting.

Mr self development.com - 3 signs of a good man 

A man with a heart, brain and courage very important.as illustrated by the above.

Other signs include:

1) Showing you respect - A man that has respect for you as a whole, your feelings and your thoughts, your space, your time, for you as the unique person that you are from the start of your relationship. Do not stick around if someone is disrespectful to you from the start, a good man will show you respect and also demand you respect them back.

2) Showing emotional maturity - A man who does not over-react or lash out when times get challenging. They can deal with life's, stresses, strains, emotional disagreements in a rational way. They can also deal with their own and their partners emotions. Have you ever been with someone who avoids conversations concerning feelings. It becomes frustrating as they are immature.

3) They are ready to commit - There are many men out there who are ready to commit and be serious, you may have come across them and have felt that they are not right for you or you for them, but when they find the right woman, there is no beating around the bush, they are proposing and getting married in no time.

4) They take care of themselves - financially, spiritually, emotionally, physically - they have focus in important area's of their life, these area's may not be perfect but they are aware of the issues and changes that need to be made, and they do it. A person can not be a help or support to anyone else unless you are able to take care of themselves first and foremost.

5) They are able to give love and to show it. A man that is a bit sensitive and emotional is not a bad thing as long as he is doing all of the above mentioned manly things. There needs to be a balance.

These are a few of my good men traits and characteristics, you may have some more, so BDSS'ers feel free to discuss and add to the list, maybe you have some I have not thought off. 

The whole point of the post  is to show that there are great men out there and to give you some tips of how to recognise them when they appear.  

Happy dating.........