I blame Chris Rock, Nicki Manaj, Lady Gaga and Porn

I blame Chris Rock....I do.

Have any of you seen Chris Rocks film Good Hair?

I was out with the  ladies from the BDSS and others on Saturday, and suddenly I felt outnumbered.

There was a lady with a lovely Afro from Ethiopian.

There was another with lovely extensions from Ireland, Jamaica and Ghana.

Another from Congo with lovely, shoulder length locks.

Another from Jamaica who was rocking a TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro).

Then there were the BDSS ladies, Bi who is growing her hair out, Debs who is also growing her hair out, and Si who, as is well documented went, for the big chop a few months ago.

What all the ladies had in common was the fact that they are all going natural. The conversation went from what natural hair products to use, to what hairdresser people frequent or don't frequent! Glycerol oil, Kimitube concoctions, coconut oils, youtube web video's, how going natural makes them feel etc etc...

And then there was me, Miss Relaxed hair with no intention of going natural! Definitely out numbered, I blame Chris Rock. Now, it may have been the film clip of the aluminium can being dissolved in one of the chemicals that's in relaxer in under 4 hours, or the sight of a hole being burned into a piece  of chicken breast, caused by one of the chemicals in the relaxer but either way, I don't think so many of the ladies were going natural before Chris Rock scared us all with his good hair film. I was completely outnumbered!

I blame Nicki Manaj and Lady Gaga....I really do!

I went to a club on Friday night and I could not believe the ugly shoes that some of the ladies were wearing with their lovely dresses lol. I think that if you are going to try and pull off a sexy but edgy look, you need to not dress your top half (i.e: your hair, make-up and dress) really sophisticated and sexy - polished, and then put on a hideous pair of heeled biker boots. It looked completely wrong and screams fashion victim. The killer was that it wasn't just one person in a group of women, there were so so many. I'd look up and admire the dress, the hair and make up (we women do scan other women to see what they are wearing), only to look down and feel like 'whoa - what are those' lol!

FYI: the boots did not look as stylish as these. Stop it you are not Lady Gaga or Manaj - If you want to wear kooky looking boots or shoes, a final glance in the mirror is a good idea to ensure that it enhances an outfit and not completely ruins it.

I blame porn.....I really do!

I was speaking to the ladies the other day about the art of talking dirty, what things are appropriate and what not. More specifically what things are okay for a person to request you to say to them during sex "I love it when you call me big poppa", "say my name" etc. We were all in agreement that we do not like being referred to as bitch during the do example conversation:

"Are you my bitch?"

"Excuse you bitch Nah never that mate"

Then instead of having sex you start debating why it is its not right etc. It kills the mood.

But taking it a step further can you request someone to say anything during it. If someone tells you to tell them you love them (when you don't) , or that they are the greatest (when you've had better) Do you say it? Personally I think no, as I would not want to have to disappoint someone later on down the line, by having to confess that actually that profession of feelings made during sex, was not genuine. Example conversation:

"But you said you loved me??"

"I only said it during sex, I didn't mean it, I thought you did they same thing....oh so you really love me..I thought we were just kicking it"

Awkward much!!

I think this idea that you can say and do anything during sex is false. I blame porn!

So there you have it; I blame Chris Rock, Lady Gaga and porn for all these terrible things. Can you think of any other things that aren't right and who or what caused such a thing?

4 Months Natural -HAir hAIr HAaiiRr!

It's been a while since I brought you tales of my hairscapdes in fact it's been about four months!  Yep four months since I parted ways with my relaxed hair and embraced my natural curls. Within that time my hair has gone from strength to strength therefore it's only right I bring you lovely BDSS'ers an update -->insert smiles here<--

Those of you who read the blog around January may (or may not) remember this: One Week Twa in which I gushed about going back to my roots. Well today is no different... more gushing! ha ha :-D

Ok so before the gushing beginnings I would just like to say I have always been a 'hair person' and I think my ladies will understand what I mean as in there are some women who have no clue about doing hair and typically can not plait, cornrow or straighten hair to save their lives (and that's cool). Then there are women like me who from a young age has been plaiting, cornrowing, adding extentions (with gelled fringe to the side of the head :-d) for time! Also as the trends changed I graduated to relaxing and weaving my own hair and I can't lie in some of my weaving adventures the tracks were not pretty (if tracks could talk people) haha -but it looked good though ...(Moving on)

...I say this because I don’t want you to think that just because I have gone natural I am now hair crazy and spouting off the virtues of hair all of a sudden nope I have always loved hair and since going natural I love it even more <3

So without further ado I thought I'd tell you three things I love about my hair now and also add some pictures and a little extra... POW 

What I love:

1) Trendy! - For some reason when I dress up I look effortlessly fashionable (who'd have thought eh?) and when I say dress up I literally mean when I fling on some jeans, a t-shirt and some heels.  I've discovered due to my hair style being somewhat unique (even though it's not- it's just natural!) I kind of stand out and people compliment my hair often.

2) Aquaphobia be gone! - I no longer run for cover when it rains I just walk... in the rain! haha it kind of feels liberating. I've also learnt that water is actually my hairs best friends - it's great for moisture and not drying (someone feed me lies all these years!) 

3) Inspiration - Some people have said I have inspired them (eh? a further who'd have thought) how I'm not to sure but it's very nice to hear!

Pictures:

This is me after I cut my relaxed ends off *eek* I can't lie at this stage I was questioning what have I done!! haha (a few scraggly relaxed bits remained!)

With a bit of conditioner, gel and a hair band it looked great.

Tried to strike the same pose but failed... you can still see the growth though!

 

 Showing off my length :-D

*Bonus*... I was (or still am) playing with the idea of a Youtube hair chronicle check out my first video attempt. Warning -it's two months old and involves a lot of waffling -lol! (enjoy)

Anyways BDSS'ers thanks for letting me share, any questions or comments regarding mine or your own hair chronicles are warmly welcomed... remember we women spend a lot of money, time and effort on our hair, especially us black women (9 billion according to Chris Rock!) so get commenting!