I blame Chris Rock, Nicki Manaj, Lady Gaga and Porn

I blame Chris Rock....I do.

Have any of you seen Chris Rocks film Good Hair?

I was out with the  ladies from the BDSS and others on Saturday, and suddenly I felt outnumbered.

There was a lady with a lovely Afro from Ethiopian.

There was another with lovely extensions from Ireland, Jamaica and Ghana.

Another from Congo with lovely, shoulder length locks.

Another from Jamaica who was rocking a TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro).

Then there were the BDSS ladies, Bi who is growing her hair out, Debs who is also growing her hair out, and Si who, as is well documented went, for the big chop a few months ago.

What all the ladies had in common was the fact that they are all going natural. The conversation went from what natural hair products to use, to what hairdresser people frequent or don't frequent! Glycerol oil, Kimitube concoctions, coconut oils, youtube web video's, how going natural makes them feel etc etc...

And then there was me, Miss Relaxed hair with no intention of going natural! Definitely out numbered, I blame Chris Rock. Now, it may have been the film clip of the aluminium can being dissolved in one of the chemicals that's in relaxer in under 4 hours, or the sight of a hole being burned into a piece  of chicken breast, caused by one of the chemicals in the relaxer but either way, I don't think so many of the ladies were going natural before Chris Rock scared us all with his good hair film. I was completely outnumbered!

I blame Nicki Manaj and Lady Gaga....I really do!

I went to a club on Friday night and I could not believe the ugly shoes that some of the ladies were wearing with their lovely dresses lol. I think that if you are going to try and pull off a sexy but edgy look, you need to not dress your top half (i.e: your hair, make-up and dress) really sophisticated and sexy - polished, and then put on a hideous pair of heeled biker boots. It looked completely wrong and screams fashion victim. The killer was that it wasn't just one person in a group of women, there were so so many. I'd look up and admire the dress, the hair and make up (we women do scan other women to see what they are wearing), only to look down and feel like 'whoa - what are those' lol!

FYI: the boots did not look as stylish as these. Stop it you are not Lady Gaga or Manaj - If you want to wear kooky looking boots or shoes, a final glance in the mirror is a good idea to ensure that it enhances an outfit and not completely ruins it.

I blame porn.....I really do!

I was speaking to the ladies the other day about the art of talking dirty, what things are appropriate and what not. More specifically what things are okay for a person to request you to say to them during sex "I love it when you call me big poppa", "say my name" etc. We were all in agreement that we do not like being referred to as bitch during the do example conversation:

"Are you my bitch?"

"Excuse you bitch Nah never that mate"

Then instead of having sex you start debating why it is its not right etc. It kills the mood.

But taking it a step further can you request someone to say anything during it. If someone tells you to tell them you love them (when you don't) , or that they are the greatest (when you've had better) Do you say it? Personally I think no, as I would not want to have to disappoint someone later on down the line, by having to confess that actually that profession of feelings made during sex, was not genuine. Example conversation:

"But you said you loved me??"

"I only said it during sex, I didn't mean it, I thought you did they same thing....oh so you really love me..I thought we were just kicking it"

Awkward much!!

I think this idea that you can say and do anything during sex is false. I blame porn!

So there you have it; I blame Chris Rock, Lady Gaga and porn for all these terrible things. Can you think of any other things that aren't right and who or what caused such a thing?