Is etiquette a thing of the past?

Hey guys and gals sorry I have been gone for ages! But I’m back and will post as much as the kiddies will allow!

Well anyway, in short I want to know where common etiquette has gone. I recently went to visit a friend of mine, I may not be writing this post if it were not for me feeling extremely thirsty on this visit. Now we haven’t got the sort of friendship that means I can just go to her fridge and get a drink, so I waited, and waited and waited to be offered a drink. I never got one. Why didn’t you ask? You may be thinking, and rightly so, but some rules I think are just unspoken, and perhaps it’s down to me doing something that I occasionally do which is the etiquette test. 

This particular friend failed it 2-years prior when I brought around a bottle of wine (to share) she goes on to not offer me the wine I brought (it wasn’t a present) but to offer me water or tea. Now unless I already have a bottle open and they want it, my friends are offered wine, hey we BDSSers love wine! I would not except their wine and offer something else; it’s just an unspoken rule.

So going back to this friend, I and my kids left the house without a drink, and me thinking I will not be visiting her house for a while. My friend D who is the Queen when it comes to etiquette always indulged me when I visited her house when we were at school, and I must have commented on it. She told me her Grandma had told her a story of a homeless man that had visited a family and not been offered a drink so he died of thirst. This is the rule of thumb she went by, and it stayed with me forever. When I was young my mum use to tell me it’s rude not accept something if you are offered (when visiting someone’s house) when did not being offered become the norm?

When I was pregnant and travelling on the tube, my bump could be poking people in the face, and they would not get up most of the time. One man had the cheek to get up only after a lady offered, I took the lady’s seat!

So people, BDSSers am I being old school, should I just have asked for a drink and my wine? Or am I right to expect a drink (not dinner and dessert) when I visit friends?

Where Are All The Great Men?

Where is he?

I can't lie as I look around the manscape there appears to be a shortage of great men.

Now obviously before I go off on one it would be a good idea for me to define what a 'great' man means.

Now you can refer to Sel's recent post: Very Smart Men a Turn Off; she discusses the problem’s which befall "mature, intelligent, ambitious men" in relationships.

My idea of a great catch is a man who is emotionally stable, respectful, loving, considerate, affectionate, someone I can trust that their actions are in the best interest of 'us', someone who is supportive of me and my goals and all that other good stuff.

Ok I'll admit I found defining a great man a difficult task (ask me what not great looks like ha-ha!), but I think I know one when I see one, so seriously lately I have been wondering... where are all the great men at? 

You know them upwardly mobile men who are not intimidated by a great women; who when they find a great women they are not afraid to go all the way. They have no issues they need to resolve before they can love you. They have no baby mother's who pop out the woodworks. They have no old school idea's about the roles of women and men that excuses them from helping with the dishes every now and again; and finally them men who are just not stupid enough to risk a great relationship over some silliness.

Around here it come like there is a serious drought of great men, it's like the Sahara all mirage but no actual water.

If he’s not cheating, he's stalking. If he hasn’t left you to sort out his 'issues' he not taking care of the financial agreement; and if he can't get his own way in the relationship (i.e., your not willing to work, come home and wait on him hand and foot) he'd rather throw the whole thing away.

Or the killer he no longer wants the relationship but does not want you to be with someone else, therefore he interferes in your dating life.

Will the real great man please stand up…(I know their out there).

So what do you think BDSS'ers is there a shortage or a drought? Where can an upstanding woman find an upstanding man? Also what is your definition of a great man (or women)?

Stand up

You Can't Introduce Your Children To Every 'Potential' Partner (Katie Price)...

Now I know from my own experience that sometimes the course of love does not run smoothly, hence we end up with women being known as 4x4's.

A well known '4x4' being Ulrika Johnson and Mel B with the announcement of her third pregnancy is looking like a '3x3'.

Whilst women who have multiple children by multiple men are given these titles, I notice that men are not given any titles at all, for instance my own father if the roles were reversed would be know as a 10x4 or something along them lines, but anyways that's a topic for another day.

My point is we understand that sometimes you met someone you think your going to spend the rest of your life with, you have children together, get divorced (or not) and then start the circle all over again.

What I don't understand is why because you are trying to find the elusive 'one' your children must be involved and dragged to meet every potential mate you ever go on a date with.

Exhibit A: Jordan – The man holding Jordan's child on the left? Leandro Penna Argentinian model Jordan's new main squeeze (see right).

As far as I can tell she has know him for all of three weeks… but there he is holding her child being 'papped'

Last I read he does not even speak English but apparently "I'm not with him for his mind.”

Sorry Jordan I'm team Peter for this one. Alex Reid has only been gone a minute the ink has barely dried on the divorce papers.

Why is he meeting your child when you are “just getting to know each other”

Fool… That is all BDSS'ers

Ok I will get off my pedal (sorry) but I think you know what I'm getting at, when it comes to your children you have to be careful, because step familydom is hard at the best of times, let alone when there is a revolving door of step daddies or mommies.

Don't get me wrong I'm not saying don't date or to wait until your children have left home to get back in the saddle, but please…

I mean it was only one week ago she was saying:  “I'm having an amazing time with Leandro. He isn't a future husband and I'm just having fun when I'm not with the kids.

“I'm single and I'm allowed.”

You are allowed girl but again please...

Now I know Jordan probably got other motives for being seen with Leandro and kids in tow (probably an f u to Alex, plus her reality show) but we all know people being reckless with their children and who they introduce them to... so BDSS'ers chime in.