I was reading an article the other day, that was asking the question, of whether pretty women have less desirable personality traits, compared to less attractive women (disclaimer: obviously attractiveness is subjective).
It discussed the idea that pretty women did not have to make as much of an effort to be or to come across as personable, while less pretty women have to go all out (including in the bedroom!) In order to compete or perhaps to compensate for a lack of gorgeous looks.
Along with the article I also watched the recently released, Queen latifah film called "do wright" which centred around two women and one man.
One pretty with a less than great personality and one less attractive (according to the film!) Queen latifah being the less attractive of the two physically but in personality she was wonderful.
Still she didn't immediately get together with the love interest in the film (Common...love him!), although she won him round in the end. After he was dumped by the prettier woman.
Also in addition to the above film and article, I have had conversations where people have sworn off pretty women/good looking men due to negative experiences with them.
Myself personally I've never correlated a persons personality with their looks....so I can't say that I have noticed any connection.
But as its addressed in the film, in my conversations with others and in other articles, I'm thinking that their might be some truth in it.
So in your experience bdss'ers have you ever felt this? Do you see this happening? Are prettier women much more stuck up and stooch compared to less attractive women?
Is the same true for men?
And is it solely down to looks?
I think no matter what you look like your personality whatever good or bad is what counts.
ReplyDeleteI don't think you can generalize personality based on looks, maybe the men who say this, say it because they have been knocked back... but its a risk you take when approaching anybody, they have a right to say sorry not interested!
I think that in life people use the strongest tools they think they have to survive, so based off of self-perception (That is influenced by our own opinion of what we see in the mirror) AND What we learn by interacting with other human beings it does create repetitive behaviours when it's combined with other external variables....
ReplyDeleteIn my own experience (Generally speaking) Physically Attractive women require less effort to attract men, they have many suitors and just like anything else in the world when Male Interest is abundant it drops in value.....the logical conclusion of this is that this kind of woman usually places men low on their list of priorities comfortable in the belief that she has a better than average chance of getting the attention of the one she wants, the less physically attractive girl on the other hand knows and sees the brutal truth of the matter....she cannot rely on generating interest from men from afar as nature hasn't given her the tools to do so....so this gives her the opportunity via neccesity to pay attention to how she interacts with the men she crosses paths with....
This Paradigm is also mirrored in men, whereby there are men who "Look" like they can handle their Business yet are still at home living with mama, and then you have other guys who are quiet reserved and not as Handsome or masculine (Like myself looool) that are working hard on themselves.....we each do what we think is neccessary based on what we think survival requires and what tools we think we have available.....take these things into consideration when meeting new men and women and human behaviour becomes somewhat more predictable.
Stuck up comes in ugly and cute. Its about the inner person that's where true beauty comes from the inside out
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