Don't be Dicknotized

I was talking to one of my close friends the other day asking him about his new partner, how are things going, etc and he described his partner as being dicknotized. This man always has me in fits of laughter whenever I speak to him. I asked him what the symptoms of Dicknotization are and he said the following without even pausing for a second to think about it (I'm assuming that he had given it some thought prior to the conversation) but anyway this is what he said:

"Googly eyed and addicted to the penis!"

He also went into further details about certain things which are way to private to be discussed on the blog however when he said dicknotized I thought let me examine this phenomenon lol for a second.....straight face! so...

I asked myself whether I'd ever been dicknotized, and I'm not certain I do the whole googly eyes thing, but I do think that on occasion in the past I've maybe mistaken really good sex and the lust that comes with that for deeper feelings. Was I addicted to the Penis or at the very least the release of the those endorphins that accompany good love making? probably, actually on occasion I'd say definitely. There was that one incident where I blurted out I love you whilst in the act. did I love him? No, was I loving the act at the time? hell yeah! My emotions and the endorphins got the better of me and I was dicknotized for that moment.

I also wondered is dicknotization bad for you?

Well I'm thinking that it depends on the variables of the relationship, if your in the above situation with a great partner then its brilliant, great sex, great relationship, that's the ideal, as enjoyable intimate relations in a relationship is important. And a lot of people when talking about having lust and being addicted to sex with someone talk about it like it is a negative always assuming that it is not possible to get with a great partner and this is not always the case. There are alot of happy couples out there addicted to each others bedroom skills...kudos to you!

However if your in a relationship with someone not treating you as you desire and I say this as everyone has different standards and criteria for being treated correctly within a relationship, then being dicknotized and (and I'm sure that when I say this word everyone is able to imagine it in the reverse also, as in a male maybe, being addicted to how a woman is able to put it down), then you might be in trouble. Maybe your putting up with all kinds of negative behaviours or actions, probably thinking that your feelings run deeper than if you took away the awesome sex, you'd normally not put up with. Reading this post will hopefully prompt you to analyse the relationship leaving sex aside for a moment to think about what else your actually gaining from being in it (what are the pros/cons, are you generally happy within the relationship?) think about it for a second!.....

Just to refresh the symptoms....just in case you are suspecting your dicknotized right about now!

they are:

1) googly eyes

2)  An addiction to a specific penis (if your addicted to any one's and everyones penis then this just could be sex addiction, which is not the same thing).

You may as well walk around with a sign saying:

I guess the ultimate aim is to not be dicknotized but if its unavoidable (if your ruled by your neither regions) then it's worth ensuring that the person you allow yourself to be with in this way is worthy. I think my friends partner is very fortunate as he is a great catch. Others may noy be so lucky!

But anyways bdss'ers have you ever been addicted to a particular person's bedroom action and how was that for you?

Also if you are a person getting people hooked.......then stop it! Just Kidding! Share....whats your secret?

Please read, comment, share, enjoy :-)

Does man stress make you a woman?

 

I was listening to a song the other day, by an artist that I love and at first I was listening to the song contentedly it was quite a soulful track. I liked the vocals, the backing track, the video looked very slick, I was starting to feel quite impressed but then I caught on and listened to the lyrics, and the feminist in me started to feel slightly uncomfortable.

A good song manages to paint a picture in your mind, and this songs was about your usual r'n'b fodder, relationships, so as the lyrics in this song go on, picture me, picturing a woman struggling in her relationship talking about "these tears I cry sure won't be the last, this pain in side never seems to pass"  so I'm thinking oh oh not a great relationship!! and I can relate we've all been there.

Then the song talks about another woman "sometimes I wonder could she be more of a woman to you, than you are a man to me" double oh oh maybe some infidelity going on.  It goes on "I hope she is happy, she is happy your the chapter I am closing". He has now gone to this other woman. Tut tut tut terrible, but again I can relate issues of infidelity can feel like norm these day.

Then it got uncomfortable to me! The jarring thing is that after hearing about all this heartbreak this man is causing, the singer then goes on to thank this guy for making her a woman, it goes "so I thank you, yeahhhh, so I thank you  yeahhhh, so I thank you for making me a woomann" I can't help but think that something is wrong here......in fact I'd go so far as to say
Hell No!

Here is why......

While I understand that going through life's twists and turns can make certain individuals grow up quickly, and take on more responsibilities than others and that this may make you act and even be more mature (it may expedite the transition from boy to manhood or girl to womanhood), than if you go through an idyllic trouble free childhood. But where along the lines did a girl's ability to become a woman become a man's remit. That we have got all these song's crying out to some unsuitable meaning wanker man thank you for making me a woman!!

The song is effectively saying that I stayed here and let you miss-treat me for a minute but thank you, you made me a woman......I can't help but pose the question....how so?

There are so many stand out events in my life that mark out my journey from girlhood to womanhood and I do not class relationship break ups anywhere on my  list, some examples are moving out and having my own place, working and paying to keep a roof over mine and my families head, having a child, the very mere fact that I was born a female with the xx chromosomes, have breasts and regular period's holds so much more weight to me than the break up between me and my first boyfriend at 16 for example. Yet no one ever sings I became a woman when I had my first child or bought my first car, its always some random relationship problem.

The scary thing is that so many women subscribe to this notion, listening to the song and commenting that the song reminds them of their life, and how much they love the lyric.

Personally I think it gives the wrong person too much credit and a bit too much power, if all they hurt you why say thank you?

If someone runs over my toe's I don't thank them for the pleasure of hurting my foot. Or Punches me square in the face I don't thank them for causing me a nose bleed. The same is true for emotional distress, if someone takes liberties with your heart why then thank them and give them kudos for something that a) you already are (if your already grown) or b) your going to become in time anyway (if your a young woman not yet an adult).


So bdss'er what events shaped you and made you go from girlhood to womanhood? (I'm praying that you all will have more than the usual relationship woes as depicted in the songs) but if not its okay I want to hear from you still.  Guy's does the same hold true for you, does woman stress make you a man? I don't hear any men saying "she got pregnant by Jerome during the relationship but I thank her because she made me a man". Maybe you have them but don't say or sing theses thoughts out loud so no one knows.

Does it take man or woman stress to make you grown? I believe I could do without the stress and be a grown woman anyway but what do you think bdss'ers?

Coincidentally the actual song is sung by a woman but written by a man, this may or may not be significant! What do you think?

I want a husband STAT!!

I woke up early Saturday morning in a real reflective mood.

I did what I normally do when I wake up early but don't particularly want to get out of bed... I went online looking at various tweets and facebook statuses... someone went from in a relationship to "single". Another person was talking about she would go "under the jail" if she had a daughter and a man disrespected her - she nips disrespect in the bud (my kind of women!)
Another person wished his wife a happy birthday and said thank you for being a loving and caring wife...
I don't know if it's because I watched four weddings the night before and one of the brides who was older wore what I considered the most dowdy, unflattering outfit I have every seen (I know to her it was probably perfect and that's what counts!) but it was at that point I said to my partner I don't want to wear an outfit like that on my wedding day (i.e., I don't want to be an older bride!)
That coupled with the husbands birthday speech made me think oh... I want a husband... STAT! Lol  like right now! (your getting an insight into my irrational  mind)

Now you all know I've recently turned 30 and with that came the usual banter about when Mr Si (the lady on twitter was also talking about people abusing husband/wife titles! Hehe) is going to put a ring on it! I got the talk from my father right down to an older work colleague, especially as me and Mr Si have been together for almost a decade! My colleague was almost shouting "what is he waiting for?"
My response was 'it's on the cards' or maybe I said 'it has been discussed...'

Recently some people have just done it! As in... they Met, Fell in love and Married within a short space of time or Met,  Fell in love, Planned to give up everything and get married in a short space of time!

I kind of admire (envy) that. You see almost a decade in I think why did we not do that? Also at a decade in I think we have definitely missed that 'whirlwind' window of opportunity to rush off somewhere exotic (or not) and just do it.
Now I think life has got in the way (i.e., work, raising children, finances) and any talk of marriage is puncuated with an "after we have done this..." or "after we have done that..."

I guess I wrote all of this to ask any married people or non married; even non believing in marriage people (is it just a piece of paper?) what made you just do it? or not just do it? Also how did you know she or he was 'the one' you wanted to marry? what makes a women marriage material fellas and women what makes a man marriage material? Am I even marriage material? How do you know?

Also I was ease dropping on my colleague who was having the same discussion of "when" with another colleague who has been with her partner the same length of time as myself. Now her response to the question was interesting. She basically said that if  she and her partner had gotten married right at the beginning then so be it; but as they have left it so long and also depending on the side of the bed she wakes up on she somethings thinks it would be nice to marry him and then at other times she is glad she is not married as she thinks if one day she wants to go off and do her own things she does not have any ties! interesting...

Anyways what are your thoughts BDSSers?