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Wednesday 22 September 2010

I Want To Be Your Babyfather...


After reading the above article about the alleged jobless & ´feckless´ man apparently responsible for fathering 15 children by 14 different women, I started to think about a chat up line I heard a few years ago…

Ladies picture this ...your minding your own business on a bus when a random man approaches you and after the initial conversation delivers the following closing line: ´I want to be your  babyfather´ (or maybe it was I want to be your ´next´ babyfather or something to that effect!).

Now going back to the article the author was at a loss as to what would make these 14 women end up pregnant by this man in the first place knowing that he already had 5.. 8.. 11.. or 13 children by 5.. 8.. 11.. or 13 different women? (It´s a mystery for me too- lol!);

And equally when my friend relayed the story of the  ´I want to be your babyfather´ chat up line I was also at a loss.  I was like ...really and you actually continued to talk with this man? ( I can´t remember if anything came of that chat up line - but I remember talking about it so there is a possibility that something did!).

Another thought I had at the time is what would make this random man think that by telling you he wants to be your babyfather he would 1) Get maximum results? 2) Think that you would respond positively to this line of chat and 3) Think that you might possibly become his babymother or at least get to start doing the things that result in babies being born! (again some more mysteries to be solved- lol!)

I mean who know´s how the man in the article swung it and brought up the fact he has a lot of children by a lot of different women to his prospective partners, but clearly (and this is just my personal opinion) the women did NOT mind! Or why else would they end up being babymother number 5.. 8.. 11.. or 13!?

I have been racking my brain for a good half an hour trying to come up with some possible reasons as to why any women would want to be and/or even end up being baby mother number 5.. 8.. 11.. etc and so far I have come up with the following:

1) This guy has some serious lady charming skills;
2) He knows how to spot the women who will respond positively to the ´by the way I have 5.. 8.. 11.. or 13 children´ conversation;
3) Or maybe he is just upfront and uses the  ´I want to be your baby father´ chat up line whilst approaching women on the bus! I can´t say why exactly but for some reason I feel like this is the kind of thing a man who already has more than one child with probably a number of different women would say! Do correct me if I´m wrong ladies (But I know I´m right! :-D)

I mean the article states the man is averaging one baby per year and he currently has 3 babies in the pipe line (I was really tired whilst reading so I could be wrong!)  not forgetting a current girlfriend who is also pregnant and talking about giving him a second chance! A second chance at what I would like to know?

So anyways my BDSSérs in order to make some sense out of all of the above can you all think of any other reason´s why a women would end up being baby mother number 15?  Also clearly these women have no children or babymother limits but I want to know- do you? (I think I draw the line at 10 children with 7 babymother´s - only joking!);  and finally  have any of you succumbed to the ´I want you to be my babymother/babyfather´ type chat up line and what was the outcome? are you babymother/ father number 10 right now? the BDSS would be very interested to know...

5 comments:

  1. Aghhh, firstly that man needs a slap. Well i personally know someone who was told by then what was their boyfriend now their husband that they wanted them to have his kids, i found it strange then and this person thought he really must like me... i thought please! if he really likes you let him get you diamonds not give babies not even a year into their relationship and guess what they ended having a baby but are now married, he could ahve hit and run.

    Personally i would not entertain such crap. One has to ask how do you start a relationship without knowing such details and then you go out with him, not practise safe sex. I mean really what is wrong with these people, on top of that they can not afford to bring up these children, yet they are busy making them all over the place rather irresponsible. For me it comes down to knowing your self worth and what you are willing to take and not take, personally, i would like to be married before having a child and have a good career and i know things don't alway work out how you plan but i will try hard to keep it simple by not having sex and wait for the right person and if Gods plan is that i have a child then it will happen the way he planned it.

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  2. Interesting post girl!

    I saw the story and it made me think the poor kids with such a dad who will have to spread himself so thinly between them all, that's if he is involved in their lives at all!

    But yeah on the point of who would want to be babymother number 15?......Not me lol!

    I think this case in the paper is an extreme case of something that is happening all be it with smaller number of children and also there are women who have numerous children with different fathers. So its not new. I think that in all circumstances the individuals involved in creating the children should take personal responsibility for the choice to have kids and with the partner.

    On a different note I have gone through a few phases when it come to the issue of dating people with children from a previous relationship.

    When I was younger it was a no no, but since having my son, I have dated someone with 2 kids. The most important thing was my partners relationship history.

    If I've ever met someone who has children but has never had a relationship then that indicates to me that maybe they are probably not going to start being relationship savvy now even if I bore them I child.

    So I think my personal limit would be two providing I could believe that the person is able to love and have a relationships.

    Would that be a good chat up line for me?....definitely not its too ghetto lol!

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  3. Sorry for all the spelling errors lol! Commenting using my phone is not easy!

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  4. Well, the main question for me is whether he did actually tell each of them "hear wat, me get 7/9/13 otha pickney dem" (ok so I know he's not caribbean, but I thought I'd jazz it up a lil bit!) because I certainly wouldn't put it past him to keep it to himself if he thought it would affect the outcome (i.e. another baby). That to me seems more reasonable than telling babymama number 10 that he has 9 others with possibly 9 other women - I'm sure even chavs have some standards!

    Although I don't know their levels of scruples (if any), I could probably eliminate the first two women of this tranche for naivety but from the rest were meeting this (very likely unemployed) loser, why didn't their alarm bells kick in? Well maybe cos they weren't working in the first place!

    Personally, dealing with 1 from a previous relationship is difficult enough without adding more into the equation.

    I could just imagine 5 babymamas getting into a scrap and babies flying everywhere, cos he's bought something for one and left the rest out LOL!

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  5. Debs not even a Jamacian accent could make that situation appealing Lol

    I mean I can sort of see the benefit of being baby mother number 7 for a rich man who would provide me with child support so I can l live a work free lifestyle for 18 years!
    But a jobless man! Why? Lol
    I agree with Sel, its the children that are most affected in the end.

    Oh well to each there own!

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