Saturday, 18 June 2011
Fathers You Count
In celebration of father’s day I thought it would be nice if we talked about the importance of fathers and although I love my father dearly I can’t lie in trying to write this post I was torn between conforming to the normal sentiments of fathers day (you know gushing about how much I love my father) and well…honesty!
When I think about my own relationship with my father and all the positive and negative feelings that have gone a long with it I recognise his big impact on me.
From my late childhood and early teens when he was not around as often as I would have liked, when visits were often sporadic and fraught with periods of waiting and disappointments I appreciate that he never cut the paternal strings completely.
Right through to now I’m an adult with my own child and now I can appreciate that he is only human just as I am; and just as I make mistakes as a mother/human so did he and I guess it affords me understanding which I did not have as a child.
You see as a child I can remember moments when I thought he was the worst man in the world and equally I thought he was the best at other moments.
What I want to get across with this post is how valuable fathers really are particularly in the early years when children are forming ideas about men and women and the world.
I could be wrong but in all honesty I take my fathers occasional absences, as a sign that possibly he underestimated his impact and role in shaping my life (I could be wrong)
The impacts of those early years are still with my father and I today.
Fathers I just want to let you know you count in your children’s life from the moment we are born we are told we should have a mother and father who protect, guide and love us unconditionally so to all those fathers out there protecting, guiding and loving their children – Happy Fathers day!
P.S, I am aware this is my own personal experience so BDSS’ers feel free to share your fathers day stories telling us about your fathers (stepfathers or father figures) and what impact they have had on your life.